First Time Mom Things

First Time Mom Things

So, we’re going on to three weeks. It’s been an assortment of ups and downs. The journey is interesting, always leaving me on my tippy toes. And I am constantly learning things as a first time mom. 

I’m finding I have less time for me and more time for them. But that’s such a humbling thing, because I never realized how much of ME consumed my life. I’m definitely on a journey. I feel I am being steered away from certain things and toward a more satisfying destination. 

I find myself becoming frustrated that I can’t do everything. I want to be able to do what I did before we had kids, but it’s not realistic. It’s selfish. I can do some of those things, but I need to lay some things to rest or at least embrace the things I cannot do. Perhaps, there will come a day when I can go back to doing some of those things, but for nowI need to let them go. 

I’m tired of trying to keep up with the girl next door. Trying to prove something. Trying to impress people. Trying to get more for myself. I am ashamed to even admit it, but I’m sure if we all search our hearts there are things in there we’d rather not face. God knows my talents. My shortcomings. My desires and wants. Why does it have to be made into such a big deal? I’m still trying to answer that.

Because I’m proud of the DIY I just did, it’s like no other! So?

Because that salad was a great success for dinner last night and people were asking for the recipe! And?

Because my living room looks so darn cute with that fabulous globe I just found at the thrift store for $1 and I want people to be amazed by my find! What?! 

What, is right. What’s wrong with this whole picture? I feel like I’m missing out on the point here. It’s great that I find personal satisfaction in making cute DIYs, or fixing things up, or cooking up some great recipe, or finding some nifty things for the home. But has it taken precedence in my life? Still trying to answer that question. 

I guess I’ve had to do a self inventory check the last couple weeks. Being an instant mom to a 2 1/2 and 1 1/2 year old will do that to you. It’s been the best thing that has ever happened to me. I feel like I am finally growing as a person and not becoming stagnant.

I realize that it’s ok to share ideas, recipes and stories. But it’s crucual that I am honest with myself and with my readers. Because it’s that accountability that keeps my life thriving. It keeps things in perspective and honest.

What do you say, will you keep me in check? I don’t want to be that person who makes you feel like garbage that they can’t do it all and then some. I don’t want to be phony or unrelatable. I want to be that person you can confide in. The person that you feel you can share with and not feel condemned. I know that’s what I’m always looking for in a friend. 

So, I better run. I have some oatmeal getting cold, a little boy calling for my attention, dishes to put away, laundry to do, a face to wash and homework to put off! 

XOXO, Lidy

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  • Shy

    haha! Love your honesty Lidy. It’s sooo true and with three kids it’s something I STILL struggle with. Even if I don’t get ME time I feel sorry for myself and go into this “woe is me” thing. Selfish I know!! Thanks for this…. and love you.

    • HelloLidy

      So happy to hear I’m not alone in this. I think it’s a lot more normal than we all think, we just don’t hear it enough. I totally feel tempted to feel sorry for myself at least once a day, ha. Thanks for your comment!

      XOXO

  • Flo

    Hola Lidy!

    Take a moment and BREATHE. you are on the right path realizing the changes you have to do to your life to include these precious babies. Parenthood is a big sacrifice and not everybody is cut out for it. we are all selfish creatures and we do not want to give our time to anything that will not give us immediate satisfaction. So it is normal that you are unsure about not being able to do the things you did before you had kids. (Think about the sacrifices your parents had to do to raise you! )

    Lidy, I read your older posts and I see how exited you are and how much you were waiting for these precious babies. And guess what? Its is SO real now! Do not panic and and don’t feel sorry about yourself. You should be proud of what your babies are learning from you and the environment you are providing them! It is not about impressing people. Its about impressing yourself and God on what a good job you are doing!

    This challenge will make you a better person. Keep honest to yourself and your loved ones. Talk, talk, talk, to your partner about how you feel and what you are unsure about! Do research together. Its is OK to feel weak and not know what to do, that’s why you need the support of your partner (Greg has picked me up from the floor crying a couple of times, kisses me a takes over.) Your priorities will change, and it will get easier over time. just take a moment to step back and think about what really matters in your life, and family values.

    I hope this helps you in your self evaluation I just want to tell you this from the bottom of my heart: You are doing a wonderful job! and EVERYTHING you do MAKES a difference!
    I find helpful talking to my parents, and mother in law whenever I have life troubles. they do want the best for me and my family and lets face it, they raised pretty darn good kids! (HA HA)

    • HelloLidy

      You are the sweetest. All of what you said spoke to me and encouraged me. It’s been a crazy journey, but I do have to look back and remember how our hearts were ready for this and that it’s only normal to feel overwhelmed at times. I think you are right, I should talk more about it with others. I already feel a million times better since this post! Thank you again, your words are were so helpful!

      XO

  • Jeran

    No one can tell you what it’s like until you experience it. It’s the best thing EVER to have kids and just soak up how they see and experience things. I’m so glad you have these 2 amazing kids to see life through. You’ll never be the same. You may need to eat more chocolate, I find that helps. But, you guys are amazing parents and we are so proud of you.

    • HelloLidy

      Aw, thank you. Chocolate sounds amazing, especially today!

  • Laken

    I love that your honest about wanting me time… I know so many moms who put up a picture perfect front when they are struggling behind the happy face they put on. We all have out days of selfishness and we all have our days of being super mom. In the end we all need to help eachother out and know we are not the only ones dealing with the highs and lows of mommy hood.

    I have a girl going through her VERY bossy terrible twos and somedays I really wish I was easier on my parents because payback is upon me!!

    Hope your enjoying the crazy life of parenting!

    • HelloLidy

      Thanks Laken! It is refreshing to be honest about mommy-hood! I just know so many people that act like things are always easy and have all the time in the world to craft, bake, clean, shop and have dinner on the table every night. It’s just not like that at our house! I’m not ashamed of that at all!

      I am enjoying my time with the little ones though! They keep me busy, but it’s been a lot of fun!

      XOXO
      Lidy

  • lee nielsen

    Hey Lidy! Glad to hear all is going well with your newest additions! That is just great news! Kids are so wonderful-busy but wonderful. Yes, your life does change dramatically, and those things that you liked to do and don’t have time for will eventually come back…it will take time! My two boys are pretty much the same age as your two…two and a half and my youngest is just over a year. OUr house is a very busy place, never as clean as it should be, lots of noise, toys and games everywhere, and the list goes one. Take it one step at a time and just realize that not everything will get done in a day and that is ok! You are doing a fine job! Take care and best of luck! What a wonderful journey you both are on!

    • HelloLidy

      Thanks so much Lee :) It’s always so uplifting hearing from other moms tell you it’s normal what your are experiencing! I am sure I can be my own worst enemy at times….I have unrealistic standards because I tend to compare myself to all those “super moms”. I am starting to accept that I can’t do everything and I am fine with that! If I get one thing done, I am happy :)

      Thanks for your uplifting words! I truly appreciate it!
      XO

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