Hello 2015!

Hello Lidy

Holy moly, it’s 2015! It’s good to be back. I had a wonderful time with family and friends! But most of all, I had a lot of time to think and reevaluate the blog and life at home. 

2014 was full of some of the best memories and some of the worst ones. I’ve been really holding on to the moments that are truly worthy of thinking about and obviously, our adoption was the highlight of last year. We waited two long years to finalize the adoption of our three toddlers and we are surely beyond blessed to have Holden, Violet and Sebastian in our lives! We also faced a lot of heart ache and a lot of change. We said goodbye to California and to some amazing people, some we may never see again. The idea of that still makes me sick. But this move has been so positive in so many ways and I am looking forward to this new chapter in our lives!

We are starting fresh! A new home, a new city. It’s only been 4 months and we are still sorting everything out! I decided this year to really challenge myself with priorities. I feel because of all the crazy, abnormal life circumstances we faced last year, our lives are way off balance and chaotic. Now that it’s mostly behind us and sort of slowing down, I still feel totally amiss. The dust is clearing and my outlook on life has changed. A lot. 

Have you ever talked with someone (or are that someone) whose been to a 3rd world country for volunteer work or a mission of some sort? Where life is actually life or death. Do they ever come home and just pick up where they left off, as though they were never there? Rarely. Sometimes they just experienced something so real outside of the little bubbles we live in. That’s how I feel after 2014. I feel like I’ve seen so much, heard so much, learned so much, experienced so much that I didn’t even know what real life could be like out there. I could no longer be the person I was before. Even if I tried my hardest. And I’ve been trying really hard! 

The truth is, I love blogging! I love it because I get to breath life into all the wild things that I conjure up in my mind! I get to use my imagination every day and create ideas into realities. I’m never bored and really take in the world around me more than most because I’m constantly looking to be inspired.  It challenges me and teaches me to persevere and to not be afraid of failing. I get so much enjoyment meeting new people through my blog. I get to do projects that challenge me and I grow constantly as an individual. 

But there’s an ugly truth to blogging too. It’s hard. It can often be draining because I’m constantly trying to find ways to inspire my readers with something they’ve never seen before. And that can be challenging because the internet is an infinite place of ideas. It takes up a lot of time in the day – between brainstorming ideas , to executing DIYS and projects, to capturing, to editing, to posting and repeat. And yes, naturally, things can get neglected in the real world when you are constantly fighting with balance.

And the kicker.

Blogging can be really superficial. I find myself talking about me, me, me, day after day, on my blog….on Facebook….on Instagram….on Twitter…on Pinterest. And every other social platform that’s coming out nowadays. I feel kind of sick of my own voice. Do you see what I’m saying? It’s a world we live in that’s really self-gloryfying and self-exalting. It’s a world where we want approval, recognition and praise. And maybe no one talks about it because they just flat out don’t agree with me, which is totally ok! Or maybe because it isn’t pretty, frilly and happy. But it’s something I wanted to be honest with you about….and myself. I don’t want to be that kind of person, who forgets what I saw and experienced that made me realize how short life is. How fragile our worlds can be. I don’t want to fill my mind with so many temporal things and lose sight on what matters 20 years from now. When I’m not blogging, all my babies have grown up and life has significantly altered.  

So many times you hear bloggers say they are feeling burnt out. And I believe they are burnt out. It’s exhausting trying to keep up that kind of life style. I’m feeling it now too. I’ve been blogging for 5 years now. I’ve tried to make this my full time job. And the truth is, it’s WAY more successful than ever before, but no where near being able to pay the bills. I still love it for all the same reasons, but there comes a time in your life when you have to make some serious priorities.

I decided to give my blog one more year. I’m not sure what I’m going to do exactly after this year with my blog if things don’t change or I don’t find that balance I’m in need of. I might cut back to a few days a week, or maybe even altogether. It’s not something I’m looking forward to doing, but I know it just feels right in my heart. I’ve seeking advice with close friends and family. I’ve prayed about it. And this is what I feel I need to do. I’ll continue to share my passions with you, talk about myself a little more on social media (insert winky smile) and then come to a decision closer to the end of 2015!

Thank you so much for continuing to support this blog. For your encouraging and uplifting comments, messages and emails! Thank you for your interest in our projects and DIYs – we are honored to have such amazing and loyal readers! I hope I wasn’t too honest with you and came across negatively! I just want to be real with you…always…..and share the things I’ve been thinking about for some time. Most of all, I would love to hear your thoughts on all of this!

Hope you all had an amazing Christmas and New Years!

XOXO, Lidy  

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  • I think the work you do is amazing, so naturally I would be sad to see your blog end! On the other hand, if it’s getting to be too much, you have to do what you have to do to take care of yourself and family. Looking forward to where your blog takes you this year and hoping you can find a place with it that you enjoy :)

    • HelloLidy

      Rachel, I appreciate your constant support and encouragement! You’ve always been one to share your honest thoughts and they’ve really helped me along this blogging journey. Thank you for your positivity – I always feel like I can take on the world after our talks 😉

      XOXO

  • I definitely know what you mean! Some people turn their sites completely non-family, which does take the self-glorification out, but it also turns it into something impersonal. and I’m not ready for that. I hope you keep going with it! I think there will be a trend this year of higher quality, less quantity with blogging. That should help prevent burnout. xo!

    • HelloLidy

      Oh, so glad you are on the same page! I am in total agreement with you, I’m hoping the blogging trend goes from pumping out a large quantity of posts, to maybe less with better quality. But I am also guilty of that – I have to practice being more intentional with my posts! Thank you for sharing your thoughts friend, appreciate it!

      XOXO

  • I feel all of the same things, and I’ve only been doing this for a little over a year… ha! Making it to five seems almost impossible sometimes with how HARD things get. I’ve always been honest with myself about how this blog thing isn’t forever, and that there will come a time where priorities change, and I’m happy to hear you’re coming to those terms knowing it’s what’s best for you.

    I absolutely agree on the superficiality of it all. I don’t know how I ever thought I could stay ambivalent about the opinions of others throughout all this- truth is, this experience has actually made me start caring WAY more about what others think, and it’s exhausting. I need you to know though, that my favorite thing about you and your blog is that there’s nothing phony about you. Your heart is always clear and true, and I’ve never seen anything you do as self-glorification.

    Perhaps before deciding to end the blog journey, maybe your focus will just shift. I personally love seeing your beautiful family and how you’ve all been coming along. If the “business” aspect of your blog ends, I’d for sure still love seeing your family grow, from whatever you’re willing to share. Just a thought <3

    I swear this comment is twice as long as I intended it to be. Apologies. Thanks for sharing yourself- we can all relate!!!

    • HelloLidy

      This brings me some relief knowing that I’m not alone in how I feel this year. Especially coming from you, when you share such great content and seem to be on fire! haha

      I respect your opinions and really am taking your words to heart! Thank you for your sweet words Amy – and your suggestions :) I’m keeping an open mind and staying positive. I have a whole year to really ponder all these things!

      XOXO

      • See, I could say the same thing about you. Everything you do is amazing and you spit out ideas like rapid-fire, I wouldn’t have guessed at all you were thinking of calling anything quits! It’s easy to forget that the pressures and burdens are there for all of us. It’s a serious truth that doesn’t get talked about enough, so once again, thanks for talking about it. I’m inspired to do the same.

  • Nicole

    I just found you last night on instagram, after googling for some home decor inspiration, and your post today inspired me to come over and read your blog. I wasn’t really looking for more bloggers to follow; if anything, I would like to spend less time online. So, I really, really appreciate your comments above. So often, I wonder what bloggers real lives are actually like, and wonder how they can blog about crafting, or clothes, or whatever, and not mention all the heartache and injustice in the world, and there has been plenty this year. I know the 2 aren’t easily connected, but it’s gratifying to read your blog today and hear some real honesty. Thanks for sharing and best of luck on your journey this year.

    • HelloLidy

      Thanks so much Nicole, I am so happy you found me! Not to mention, that you caught me on such a vulnerable note 😉

      I 100% agree with you! I often feel so convicted by what’s going on in the world while I’m talking about such silly things really! I excuse it by thinking it’s just a nice distraction. But really, what I’m most afraid of is that we are all just becoming complacent and not affected by the realities around us. I think for me, I am often reminded daily by the brokenness of the world simply by looking at my children. I constantly remind myself of where they came from. What they went through. That keeps me real for sure. I think I can do a better job of sharing more of that on my blog and not so much the pretty things! Not that it’s wrong, because I think it’s good to have those things too. Just a healthy balance of both :)

      I am so glad we met and hope to talk some more in the future!

      XOXO

  • 2015 feels like the year for change. I wish you continued inspiration, happiness and more. Your DIY’s have been my favorite and help to inspire. Nothing complicated or over reaching. It’s difficult to find that balance between doing what you love and focusing on every day life. I’m always in awe of those who post more than 3 times a week, and not sure how to do it. Thank you for your honesty about blogging, it isn’t spoken near enough.

    • HelloLidy

      Yay to change! Thanks for your kind compliments! I am flattered, really. And I am your girl when it comes to being honest about my struggles! I’ve never been good at pretending, so it feels good to vent every so often. I am just thankful for all the grace and patience shown to me when I do :)

      XOXO

  • it is very hard and thanks for your honesty! the superficial aspect is the hardest because people don’t necessarily share the difficult, imperfect parts…the failures, the depression, the day to day. i hope you are able to find what makes you happy this year, lidy! wish you all the best and know you will be successful with that creative mind.

    • HelloLidy

      Thank you Madeline! You are incredibly sweet!! I think I am going to make a point to share more day to day things with you all. It’s not always what it seems, not a big surprise I’m sure! Don’t get me wrong, I am happy and life is good, but it’s important to show everything and not just what we think looks good.

      XOXO

  • Jennifer R. Mullin

    This. You hit the nail on the head. I think that bloggers constantly strut the line of divulging too much or possibly not enough. I often wonder if I’m saying too much.
    I also worry about being relevant and fresh — and if I’m not feeling it, I take a short break. Filling my blog with worthwhile content is number one! Oddly enough, I’m gearing up after a holiday break and trying to plan what might be fun and interesting to the masses!
    Happy New Year and keep being you. It works!

  • Yes!! Totally get everything you are saying, even though my new blog is less than a year old! Burn out can come quick. I too have looked at my priorities and realized I didn’t want a ‘me centered’ existence walking into 2015. I actually spent the New Year cleaning up and deleting a lot of my online life. And made the huge decision to say goodbye to Facebook! I’m still blogging but reminding myself of the reasons I do (because I love to, to share with my friends/family, and connect to others with the same passion), so the unnecessary pressures are not there. It’s sad when our passions can also become our burdens, and that’s something I’m guarding myself from now. I homeschool both my kids and it is so easy to let my passion take the wrong seat in my life. Those that don’t blog have no idea the time that goes into one post! I always think, “Oh, I’ll just take a couple minutes and shoot that, or write this.” Before I know it hours have gone by and I’m in a chaotic race to do all I need to on the family front. I can honestly say I’m relived and feeling so much better with my life being in the real and less online. Hugs to you!

    • HelloLidy

      Thank you Krystle! I think it’s bold to be that honest with yourself, especially when you’ve only been blogging for over a year.You’re obviously a lot more mature than I was when I first started out! haha

      I think it takes guts to get rid of Facebook, especially as a blogger. There’s always that pressure to keep connected in every possible avenue. I think that’s when it all becomes burdensome as you said. And I literally laughed out loud when you said you tell yourself you’ll shoot out a post quickly, but then hours go by. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve said that to myself as well. It’s nice to know we have that in common 😉

      Thanks again for your encouragement!

      XOXO

  • Love this post, Lidy. I’ve been feeling very similarly. Thank you so much for sharing this.

    • HelloLidy

      Thanks so much Meredith! i’m so happy you felt you could relate to it. I appreciate you taking the time to share that with me :)

      XOXO

  • Sabrina Grant

    Will miss it if the blog stops…but totally understandable. Enjoy your time with your family and the memories you guys are making. Love you Lidy!!!

    • HelloLidy

      Thanks Sabrina! You’ve been my #1 cheer leader for the longest time! You are a good friend :)

      XOXO

  • I am so on the same page as you. I feel like 2014 felt like a year where I found and lost myself at the same time. That is, in terms of aesthetics, decor and creativity, I found what I truly loved and stuck with. But in terms of my voice, it disappeared b/c I thought that’s what people didn’t come to visit me for. This is the year it stops. I am bringing my voice back and that includes my life outside of DIY and crafts.

    I still remember the first time I came across your blog, I was blown away and it was so nice to see your work (as we share similar design tastes!) but I feel like for a lot of us, the reason we relate so much to what you just wrote is because we’re all feeling it. I’ve been saying there is a blog shift happening. It’s subtle but it’s happening and it’s a GOOD thing. Because it’s bringing us back to why we started blogging and then when we do share the ‘superficial’, it comes more from a place of real creativity that adds to our lives and not is not just being added for the sake of blog content.

    I hope you stay. I would truly miss you and your blog!

    • HelloLidy

      First of all, I am so incredibly encouraged by your words. Thank you so much Alex!

      Secondly, it’s comforting to know you felt the same way this past year. It seems to be a common theme amongst bloggers. I think they only way it can change is by sticking to our instincts and doing what feels right to us. There’s so much pressure out there, but I already feel so much better just getting my thoughts out there and sharing my heart. I totally agree, if we can focus on what drove us to start our blogs in the beginning, the content would become way more rich, rather than just pumping out post after post for the sake of pressure or what have you.

      Thanks for sharing your thoughts and sweet words friend. I’m so blessed to have such wonderful friends :)

      XOXO

  • Such a refreshing post. I completely understand where youre coming from. Im going into my 3rd year of blogging and 2014 was a pivotal year for me. I found myself starting to get sucked into the notion of trying to keep up with everyone. I dont think I ever lost the authenticity of my voice, but I did feel obligated to post constantly because I was afraid of falling behind. Then we made the decision to downsize and my entire perspective on life and blogging changed. I realized how much I looove blogging and felt sickened by the thought of blogging according to others. I love interior design/diy/home decor BUT I also love so many more things and I was leaving those things out bc I didnt feel they were relevant to that specific niche. I decided that had to change. I came back in the new year with a new name, expanded focus, and a renewed love for blogging. I no longer feel the pressures to keep up. Lets face it, im not rolling in the dough and projects costs money! I felt stuck in pergatory when I didnt have funds to take on a makeover. It feels great to lift that pressure and get back to writing for the the joy of sharing. Ive just started reading your blog and I love that your content is a mix of home and life and it feels authentic and genuine. Heres to hoping you find balance in 2015.

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