Yes, you read it. Bullying. I know I open up a lot about our adoption on my blog. I open myself up and try to be as honest as possible with my readers, because to every person there is a story. And if you hear that story, you start to know them on a deeper level, more than just skin deep. But what you don’t see are behind the scenes. The words you hear, the actions you feel, the damage that is caused all due to being open, creative and authentic.
I decided to share with you why I blog. The reason why I do what I do and what is the hardest part about being a blogger.
I started blogging four years ago because I’ve always been an outgoing and bubbly person. So naturally, when blogging became a huge thing, it felt right to want to start one up. It was an outlet and a way to grow. It was an avenue to create and experiment. And I am so happy that I have this blog more than ever, because it helps me share my struggles and stories with others that I know need to hear the truth about how painful life can be. The DIYs and decor posts are areas my husband and I are passionate about. It would be unnatural not to want to share it with others. Not to mention, connecting with brands and the amazing people behind those brands. They are some of the most brilliant and creative folks I’ve met and they continue to inspire me! It’s such a blessing to be able to stay at home with my kids and make a little money on the side. Best. Job. Ever.
But I’ve learned a lot about blogging that I didn’t anticipate. Like being called a copy cat on a daily basis. Individuals spreading lies about my personality and work, just to tear me down and any achievements or accomplishments I’ve attained. It’s brought to light some of the most negative people who constantly put a damper on any success, never acknowledging that I might have worked hard or earned the good that is happening in my life. The worst is losing relationships because of all that is said in this regard. Words are powerful. They can tear you down or build you up. I believe that more than ever.
Now what? Is it worth continuing? Does it matter what the neigh sayers think, say or do? I’m not one to care too much of what people think of me (obviously it hurts like hell when you hear all the lies). I no longer try to defend or try to explain away all the accusations thrown in my face. If they can’t see the truth, then I don’t know how it can be a healthy and thriving relationship any way. I have no choice but to let those kinds of people go. I’m better for it. They are better for it. Life goes on.
I don’t know if I would go as far as saying they are bullies, but that’s what it feels like sometimes. I came across this definition the other day on a bullying statistic site that really shocked me. Verbal Adult Bully: Words can be quite damaging. Adult bullies who use this type of tactic may start rumors about the victim, or use sarcastic or demeaning language to dominate or humiliate another person. This subtle type of bullying also has the advantage – to the bully – of being difficult to document. However, the emotional and psychological impacts of verbal bullying can be felt quite keenly and can result in reduced job performance and even depression.
There you have it. I mean, do you know what you would do in this case? I’m at a loss for words and I know you are all open minded and kind hearted. I would love your thoughts.
Thank you friends for your constant love, encouragement and support. Hopefully you can see that I really do appreciate you in a very big way!
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